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Positive self-esteem is about the willingness to develop as a person and be positive and helpful to yourself and others.

High self esteem is supporting yourself even when the going gets tough. If you feel uncomfortable with something, how do you react? Do you check out why you feel this way? Or do you try to get away from the feeling ASAP?

How you relate to other people is a good measure of how you relate to yourself. So, being positive and supportive of others means that you are probably positive and supportive of yourself when you need it.

Low self esteem in young people can be seen through increased amounts of smoking (needing a prop). Teenage pregnancy (perhaps mistaking a sexual encounter as love) and also by self-harming behaviour like drug use, eating disorders, aggression to others and self cutting.

Watch out for those who display a "don't care" attitude and use verbal or physical aggression - it is unlikely to be useful in relationships with others in the long-term.

Rudeness and arrogance is not high self esteem but low self esteem behaviour, as it creates bad vibes with others.  Valuing yourself is taking into consideration the thoughts/feelings of others, as you would expect the same from them.

Self esteem is how we think about ourselves.
It is the value we attach to ourselves as individuals.

Self esteem can be affected by how others perceive you - If you are never shown any respect you may unconsciously think that you are not worth respecting.

If you have high expectations of what you can achieve, chances are your belief in yourself will push you on when others may give up.  For example, people who have high expectations of what they can achieve find that they do achieve more than those who are not expecting to do well.

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